Good evening all.
First thing i would like to say tonight is HI to all my new members and i would like to apologize for being so slack. I remembered today that i was meant to draw my apron giveaway on Thursday. So i will do that tomorrow and let you know the winner........good luck!!!
Now for the point of this blog (and i am sorry in advance about the content). I am having a bad mummy moment. My beautiful eldest daughter started kindergarten this week. She is 4 turning 5 in a few months and i always thought she was ready for school. However today (her second day of school) i get a call from the school asking me to come down and clean her up as she has done a poo and it has gone all up her back. I talked to her about it tonight and she told me that she tried to wipe but it was to messy (sorry for the graphic details but hey most of us are mums) so she sat in the toilets crying until someone found her. In the back of my mind I know she is not the first kindy kid to not be able to wipe her butt properly but it breaks my heart.
When Belly was a baby and i went to mothers group i saw all these "perfect" mums who had it all together. Their babies were "perfect", there lives were "perfect" and i was not. I was falling apart. One day i couldn't hold it in any longer and when Belly started to cry i just looked at her and burst into tears in front of all these "perfect" mothers. I felt like a failure until one of them told me about how they broke down at the post office, and another broke down at the supermarket. It was then i realized they weren't perfect they just felt like they had to be.
I am having one of those moments now. I am hearing fabulous stories about how everyone is doing so well at school and i am breaking down because my daughter can't wipe her bottom (she can most of the time) and she didn't eat her sandwich at lunch today because the cheese was melted.
So i need your help. I need you to tell me your kids weren't perfect when they started school. I need to know i am not alone staring at my baby crying because i feel like a failure.
So do you have a story? I would love to hear it!
Another year of preschool will not hurt her. There is no rush for our children to grow up quickly. Let her have another year of fun, let her self-esteem develop and then she will be confident and ready to learn at school the following year!!
ReplyDeleteAlso ask her teacher if they agree that another 12 months of preschool would benefit her!
I actually don't think sending her back to pre-school would help her at all! lol
ReplyDeleteShe's been at transition last year, if her teachers thought she wasn't ready they would have told you.
She just hasn't learnt to hold her poo til she gets home yet lol.
If this had happened at home you wouldn't be thinking anything of it.
It happens to the best of kids hun. I remember a boy Peeing his pants in assembly in year 2! It's just a learning curve for her.
I agree with Kira. I also have a 4 nearly 5 year old who has started Kindy this year. He has been going to a transition program for 3 terms, so he was certainly ready... BUT nothing gets them ready for their first day of Kindy. Its just different. My son has never cried at daycare, or transition... but he did on his first day of kinda. But he is all good now.
ReplyDeleteAbout the poo issues - We have been having issues with my son for the last 3 months - and have only just figured out it was diet related!! There are many reasons why these things happen, and Belly just had one of those days!!
Good on you - keep it up - she is loving it im sure!!
You want stories? lolol
ReplyDeleteOkay how about my young bloke getting so used to his teacher and I passing notes every day about his learning problems that the first time I didn't have a note to send to school with him he got so anxious that I wrote one anyway that simply said "Hi, have a nice day" which got passed around the staffroom at lunch time giving all the teachers a good giggle.
Or the note I had to write explaining that my 5 year old wasn't at school because he had a concussion after bouncing too high on my bed, falling off and hitting his head on my bedside cupboard?
Or having to explain to the teacher that TJ didn't have his glasses because the dog ate them so could he sit near the front of the classroom until we got them replaced :\
All this stuff passes hun, your daughter will be okay. I'm sure you'll have plenty of other awkward or embarrassing moments in years to come which will make you feel less than perfect, but they'll pass too. Everyone has them whether they admit to them or not.